Clients and others ask me why therapists usually don’t give answers or advice. ‘What would you do?’ is a question clients sometimes ask me.
The answer to this question can be found in the following Scandinavian parable.
A man sits on a jetty fishing and beside him is a bucket full of fish he has just caught. A woman walks by, sees the fish overflowing in the bucket and asks the fisherman if he could spare one for her to cook for her dinner. ‘I won’t give you one of my fish but I’m happy to teach you how to fish’ he replies.
“I just want to say thank you for being there for me, every week without fail and trying to understand me and my very unusual experience perhaps, making me feel comfortable when I was feeling far from it. It was a challenging path which I have chosen and so many times brought all the anxieties, all the doubts and insecurities, with the past histories and all the feelings into surface. No wonder so many times I was ready to give it all up, but you didn’t let me give up- you saw something in me which I yet had to see in myself and for that I will forever be grateful!”