Clients and others ask me why therapists usually don’t give answers or advice. ‘What would you do?’ is a question clients sometimes ask me.
The answer to this question can be found in the following Scandinavian parable.
A man sits on a jetty fishing and beside him is a bucket full of fish he has just caught. A woman walks by, sees the fish overflowing in the bucket and asks the fisherman if he could spare one for her to cook for her dinner. ‘I won’t give you one of my fish but I’m happy to teach you how to fish’ he replies.
“Thank you again Allan, for being the biggest inspiration that I have as a potential future therapist. Thank you, for seeing something in me, in which I couldn’t see in myself. You gave me the encouragement, support and an understanding that I didn’t know another human being could have towards another. Allan is very knowledgeable, skilled, genuine, accepting and truly kind.”